Friday, July 17, 2020

A Leader's guide to DNA--Knowledge is only part of being connected...


I am starting to write this blog and I don’t know where the story will go.  Have you ever thought things are one way and it turns out they are completely different than what you thought you knew?
Privacy for your DNA | Toledo Blade 
I took one of the DNA tests and it turns I had a mysterious first cousin that nobody knew existed. This made me curious and my curiosity unraveled a lot of secrets.

Upon getting my DNA results, my inquiring mind wanted to know more about this interesting connection it claimed I had. As I followed hints and genetic connections I found out all kinds of new information that changed the “story” as I knew it. Additionally, I had an opportunity to spend some quality time with my mom—not knowing it would be one of the last quality things we were able to do together.  We began to fill in our on-line ancestry tree.  My mom got to share lots of fond memories and talk about people that were part of her childhood.  Although we uncovered some new “juicy” information, the experience of watching my mom reminisce and connect with a first cousin that moved away when they were young was priceless.


What does this have to do with leadership?  Often, I make a decision based on the best information that I have at that moment in time; not intentionally eliminating information that would have led to a different decision.  What opened up for me is that there will always be information that I don’t know at that moment and my words could land on someone very differently because that person has different information. During my DNA discoveries it became apparent that my same words landed on different family members differently because of their individual knowledge and life experiences.

As a leader, having awareness that the same message may not be received by everyone the same is key to connecting with everyone.  Getting to know your associates at a deeper level will allow you to cater your words to reach the most amount of people and come from a place that they can relate to.  We often hear that people leave a job because they do not like their boss.  Generally, bosses have lots of people they are accountable for.  A single message may be just what one person needed to hear and to another it may land as unhelpful or even seem distasteful causing them to leave. Often, as a leader we are disseminating information and given we work in a fast- moving environment we just cascade down what was shared with us without taking the time to customize it to reach the highest number of members on our team.  Our teams likely need to have the same information you received cascaded differently for it to be effective because they do not have the same information you the leader has (make the complex simple).  Crafting a message to meet the needs of your team is not easy and takes a lot of thought—and still may not land with everyone; cascading a message to different positions in an organization may be the best solution if time is not of the essence— this will take more time and need even more thought….always keeping in mind not everyone is coming from the same place of the already known “information”.

Another best practice I recommend would be to go to those employees that you think are “more senior” ...they just might surprise you with information that is needed for you to make a better informed decision before cascading…and this doubles at the same time to create a caring connection that gives them a sense of purpose—this is truly a powerful win-win! They come from a world where in-person discussions were the norm, unlike the less senior who come from a digital world.  In today’s corporate environment, we move fast and run with the information we feel is best.  In our haste, we may not uncover all that there is to know, and we may be communicating to very few or only ourselves if your messages are not heard.

Creating meaningful connections with people may be one of the most important take-aways.  Life is all about relationships and how we connect with what the universe gives us. Open Doors, Create Bridges, Listen, Learn and Share—become a part of someone else’s story---priceless! In doing so, you will succeed as a leader.

Lastly, I want to share a few references that I found on the internet:

Simply stated a Leaders should:
·        Set expectations regarding workplace culture and behavior
·        Use different types of communication
·        Personalize your approach
·        Understand differences in values and motivations
·        Ask, don’t assume
·        Remove barriers to communication
·        Be willing to teach and be taught
·        Acknowledge the differences
…….and help create their experience!